i know this kind of man. we've seen this.
 mrs. cox, you can't let this man take advantage of you. and he will. he will.
look, sure, i----i'm obliged to tell you you should try to salvage things. and you should. people turn themselves around. not unheard-of. but. you---- you haven't broached the possibility of divorce yet?
well that's good. because first you should get all his financials. before he's forewarned. because here's a man, here's a man, practiced in deceit, this is almost, you could say it's his job, practiced at hiding things, and there is no reason, it is not improper, there is no reason for you not to get a picture of the household finances. paper files, computer files, whatever----this is your prerogative. you can be a spy too, madam. do this before you put him on alert. before the turtle can draw in his head and his, uh.
 feet.
 and hopefully everything will work out. he will reform. but! if not: forewarned is forearmed.